In
our daily life, we get to do a lot of things that do not count at all. I’ll like
to point out a few things that you can really do better than.
1.
Drugs
Smoking, drinking or such illegal drugs that are not
prescribed is never worth it, as a matter of fact if you have never tried any,
just don’t think about it. You are playing with a possible addiction that might
end up ruining your peaceful life. One thing about drugs is that when you use
them after a few days they’ll start controlling your brain, and that’s where addiction
jumps in. You won’t be able to control the urge once it gets into your brain. So
why try something totally harmful.
Some of us might have already fallen victims of
addiction, one recommended way out of it is to avoid; avoid friends who buy you
such drugs, avoid going to places where you know very well, you’ll meet your
bright nightmare. Actually, I believe this is all they do in rehab, they help
you avoid and change your mindset. Yes, rehab is also a good solution if you
can afford it.
2.
Porn
Pornography is another bright evil consuming too many
young people due to its ease of access. Well, it’s a real addiction and with
time you’ll realize you can’t control the urge to buy mobile data and log in to
that free website, or even do better things wen you are connected to the WiFi. Many
people especially young men may argue that porn does you no harm, not like
smoking or drinking, but one thing you should know is that it changes the way
you view women for this sake. Someone who does a lot of porn think of women as
sex objects and instead of making friends with the lady and enjoying her company,
he’ll be constantly trying to get sleep with her and before he knows it, he’ll
remain the lonely guy who does his things at night. Isn’t that enough harm to
you? All this can change if you think otherwise, get to know the lady and when
she’ll be more comfortable with you, you can get a piece.
3.
Paying for sex
You really should never allow your loneliness to take you
as low as to buying intimacy.
4.
Getting back with an ex
Yes, loneliness does this. C’mon you left him/her for
cheating on you with your best friend, and now for some strange reason, you
feel like s/he have totally changed over the few months? I think the only exemption
for this is when there was a misunderstanding between the two of you, otherwise
NO.
5.
Stressing over past events
Past failures, past losses you name it. I believe the
best thing you can do is to work towards achieving desirable outcome on such
events. The failure or losses were only meant to teach you a certain lesson that’ll
help you improve the next time you are in such a situation. You invested some
money in a pyramid scheme and lost all of it and there is no way you can
recover the amounts, first thing remember you are such a confident risk taker
but next time think twice before you put your savings in any investment, that
way you would have learnt from your failures and moved on. One Swahili proverb translates
‘you can’t recover spilt water.’
6.
Social media
I bet most of us will agree with me that the social
media platforms have really done much harm to not only the youths but even the middle-aged
adults. See, you have kids that you are supposed to be fully providing for, you
have bills to pay etcetera, but still you spend have your day looking at posts
of some random person on the gram? Really! One thing people in social media don’t
do is sharing with you their failures or dark moments and this will play the biggest
role in reducing your self-esteem. The social media is all fake, meet that
young woman who’s always posting cute shots of herself in some fancy places and
you’ll realize how lonely and broken she is inside and that’s the reason why
she is thirsty for social media likes and followers because she can’t get them
in real life. I am not totally denying the fact that it also has its bright
side, be wise.
7.
Listening to news
Watching news, reading news all that, makes you view
the world so negatively. Well I am not trying to say you shouldn’t know about
the current affairs in the world or in your country. One thing I hate about
news is that the major focus of most of these news channels is usually on the
negative occurrences, rarely do they report something positive, why, coz that
won’t be really catchy? The headlines reads ‘a man killed himself after being
divorced by his wife,’ and here is another man totally stressed up because of
the same issue, what do you think of this man after reading the headlines?
8.
Committing suicide
Well, first congrats coz you haven’t done that, but if
you have ever thought of it, man just never. All these problems are temporary
and why would you employ a permanent solution to a temporary problem? You feel lonely
right now and purposeless, well think of a few days when you’ll meet your loved
one, get married and have kids, right then you will never feel lonely or
purposeless. If you went for the permanent solution, of course you won’t have
lived happily ever after.
9.
Buying expensive stuff for status
Yeah, buying a car, buying a house or going to
expensive restaurants so that your friend can respect you or even to fit in. Be
you. Don’t put yourself in unnecessary debts for clout. You were meant to follow
a different path that may include you becoming a multimillionaire in five years
from now but that might not come to pass if you are constantly trying to follow
others’ path.
10.
Staying in a toxic relationship
Either a toxic friendship or a toxic intimate
relationship, I won’t advice it. The best way is to leave as soon as you
realize lack of value in any kind of relationship. You will make better friends
and most probably find someone who really loves you and appreciates you even
more than you do yourself.
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