It's Not Worth It

In our daily life, we get to do a lot of things that do not count at all. I’ll like to point out a few things that you can really do better than.

1.     Drugs

Smoking, drinking or such illegal drugs that are not prescribed is never worth it, as a matter of fact if you have never tried any, just don’t think about it. You are playing with a possible addiction that might end up ruining your peaceful life. One thing about drugs is that when you use them after a few days they’ll start controlling your brain, and that’s where addiction jumps in. You won’t be able to control the urge once it gets into your brain. So why try something totally harmful.

Some of us might have already fallen victims of addiction, one recommended way out of it is to avoid; avoid friends who buy you such drugs, avoid going to places where you know very well, you’ll meet your bright nightmare. Actually, I believe this is all they do in rehab, they help you avoid and change your mindset. Yes, rehab is also a good solution if you can afford it.

2.     Porn

Pornography is another bright evil consuming too many young people due to its ease of access. Well, it’s a real addiction and with time you’ll realize you can’t control the urge to buy mobile data and log in to that free website, or even do better things wen you are connected to the WiFi. Many people especially young men may argue that porn does you no harm, not like smoking or drinking, but one thing you should know is that it changes the way you view women for this sake. Someone who does a lot of porn think of women as sex objects and instead of making friends with the lady and enjoying her company, he’ll be constantly trying to get sleep with her and before he knows it, he’ll remain the lonely guy who does his things at night. Isn’t that enough harm to you? All this can change if you think otherwise, get to know the lady and when she’ll be more comfortable with you, you can get a piece.

3.     Paying for sex

You really should never allow your loneliness to take you as low as to buying intimacy.

4.     Getting back with an ex

Yes, loneliness does this. C’mon you left him/her for cheating on you with your best friend, and now for some strange reason, you feel like s/he have totally changed over the few months? I think the only exemption for this is when there was a misunderstanding between the two of you, otherwise NO.

5.     Stressing over past events

Past failures, past losses you name it. I believe the best thing you can do is to work towards achieving desirable outcome on such events. The failure or losses were only meant to teach you a certain lesson that’ll help you improve the next time you are in such a situation. You invested some money in a pyramid scheme and lost all of it and there is no way you can recover the amounts, first thing remember you are such a confident risk taker but next time think twice before you put your savings in any investment, that way you would have learnt from your failures and moved on. One Swahili proverb translates ‘you can’t recover spilt water.’

6.     Social media

I bet most of us will agree with me that the social media platforms have really done much harm to not only the youths but even the middle-aged adults. See, you have kids that you are supposed to be fully providing for, you have bills to pay etcetera, but still you spend have your day looking at posts of some random person on the gram? Really! One thing people in social media don’t do is sharing with you their failures or dark moments and this will play the biggest role in reducing your self-esteem. The social media is all fake, meet that young woman who’s always posting cute shots of herself in some fancy places and you’ll realize how lonely and broken she is inside and that’s the reason why she is thirsty for social media likes and followers because she can’t get them in real life. I am not totally denying the fact that it also has its bright side, be wise.

7.     Listening to news

Watching news, reading news all that, makes you view the world so negatively. Well I am not trying to say you shouldn’t know about the current affairs in the world or in your country. One thing I hate about news is that the major focus of most of these news channels is usually on the negative occurrences, rarely do they report something positive, why, coz that won’t be really catchy? The headlines reads ‘a man killed himself after being divorced by his wife,’ and here is another man totally stressed up because of the same issue, what do you think of this man after reading the headlines?

8.     Committing suicide

Well, first congrats coz you haven’t done that, but if you have ever thought of it, man just never. All these problems are temporary and why would you employ a permanent solution to a temporary problem? You feel lonely right now and purposeless, well think of a few days when you’ll meet your loved one, get married and have kids, right then you will never feel lonely or purposeless. If you went for the permanent solution, of course you won’t have lived happily ever after.

9.     Buying expensive stuff for status

Yeah, buying a car, buying a house or going to expensive restaurants so that your friend can respect you or even to fit in. Be you. Don’t put yourself in unnecessary debts for clout. You were meant to follow a different path that may include you becoming a multimillionaire in five years from now but that might not come to pass if you are constantly trying to follow others’ path.

10. Staying in a toxic relationship

Either a toxic friendship or a toxic intimate relationship, I won’t advice it. The best way is to leave as soon as you realize lack of value in any kind of relationship. You will make better friends and most probably find someone who really loves you and appreciates you even more than you do yourself.

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