Advice for someone in 20s and early 30s

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1.       Read more and more

Human brain is so far the fastest supercomputer ever discovered. It is super elastic and for that reason, no amount of knowledge will ever limit its functionality. Do not limit yourself. Read more self help books and blogs and you will realize you are making much improvement as a person. We live in an era where almost everything is available on the internet. Think of this, you are a business student and much of the training you get in college is majorly on economics and basic finance, if you are engage yourself in reading articles on psychology and human behavior, trust me you will be far ahead of any other business student who only focused on the class work.

2.       Network

It’s all about making friends, meeting new people. Human beings are social beings and for us to live a happy life we have to be socially active. Living in isolation is never a good idea when you are in college or even employed. College is always the best place to make friends who can even help you in the corporate world, so just work on it. Think about this, when you leave college with your degree you’ll be looking for a job, one of your highly reputable friends work in a company with a  vacancy that’s not yet advertised to the public, he’ll probably refer you to the HR and you stand higher chances of securing the job, what if you didn’t meet such friends?

3.       Avoid drugs

One thing that will destroy your youth totally is drugs. Addiction isn’t something that you can easily jump out of and when you are in the best position to avoid it, please do your best.

4.       Invest

Save that little money to invest and do not save to save. Think of about six years to come, you’ll most probably be having kids and bills to pay. Would you like your retirement to be early or late, I’d like mine early enough for myself to have a good reflection of my life before I have my last breath. If you don’t invest today, you’d rely fully on a job that might be rely tiresome and somewhat demanding. If you try otherwise, you won’t need the job, the job will need you.

5.       Spend time with your parents

If you ever think of unconditional love, the only place you can be sure to get it is from your mother. Spend time with her, constantly remind her that you love her, buy her gifts tell her funny stories and avoid hurting her in any way. You will feel really good to see your mother laughing out loud but you will never forget that one day she cried because of something you did. Do the same to your father. Put your family first and any other relationships should follow.

6.       Travel

Especially when you are in your early 20s, if you have the right financing, travel to new places, get to meet new people, get to interact with new beliefs. It will change the way you view the world. People out there are really friendly and always willing to be friends with you and challenge you for your own betterment.

7.       Do not travel

Crazy right? Yes. On the contradictory, I won’t advice you take any vacation if you are struggling financially or your parents aren’t in a position to finance your vacation. One thing, as a youth you’ll need some liquid cash to satisfy your transaction motives and the precautionary motives. The transaction motives arise from the need to buy simple and basic things like lunch, data, and the precautionary motives arise from the need to have some cash to cater for unseen occurrences. You will need the money so you better not spend it all in a vacation and end up stressing yourself or living with huge debts on your shoulders. I hope you got the difference.

8.       Do not marry when you are not financially stable

To young men, marriage is a liability on its own. You’ll need to provide for your wife, pay the bills and all that. Moving in with your girlfriend is a whole lot of liabilities and you should never think of it when you aren’t yet financially stable. Think of this, right now you are living on your own, right, or maybe with a roommate, when you are all broke for some reason, one thing you can do is go without lunch or breakfast whichever, but trust be you won’t like that to happen when you have moved in with your girlfriend.

9.       Do not marry for the sake of it

For some strange reason I believe this should be a point on its own. Many young men marry for pleasure or to fit in with their friends. I want to advice you to take your time, get to know the lady and when you are fully satisfied that you can now marry her or get married to him, go ahead.  Remember, this is someone you would spend the rest of your life with and your children will have half his/her genes, half yours. I won’t like my kids to look up to a mother who’s a total nuisance and for that reason I would ditch my girlfriend if she turns out to be a total pain in the..

10.   Find your purpose in life

And start working towards fulfilling it. You are the eldest of your siblings, good, work hard to be a good role model to them, work even harder to support them, work even more harder to give your parents the best life they never had. Nothing feels better than seeing your family happy all the time and if you don’t believe me, wait till you are in your old and wise enough to realize this is true.

Another thing, do not just sit there and laze around watching TV or social media-ing, I believe you can do better than that, start your own small business, it can as well be an online business, get yourself involved in community work, volunteer on your free time. This will help you avoid stress and depression, and feeling of loneliness.

11.   Exercise and practice healthy living

You are still young and your bones are still strong enough to push you past any tiresome exercise. It’s is always important that you regularly exercise not only for fitness but also to reduce stress and avoid certain serious diseases. You might also need to reduce that weight.

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