Why and Why?Relationships Don't Last?
So I've been so keen on whats trending in our relationships nowadays.They don't last long its like they are a movie which you want it to continue but it ends abruptly . I could list common reasons about that only to find out there is just one reason. Love. Love is a strong feeling that is now taken for granted.Love is a lie. Love is a word to express your lies and other hidden interest. Love is what blinds us from prospering. I can strongly argue there is no love in this planet. It ended the day when Cain Killed his brother. From then people were led by greed personal interest. People may say i claim there is no love and other people everyday get married. People don't get married due to love they have certain interest in that marriage,It may not be the common one but there always a reason behind everything someone does. Imagine this everyone is getting married even the lil kids you saw them growing up. So what you do now is also get married because everyone is getting married not because of love. Ladies are time conscience they fear menopause is here getting near so whoever comes their way they want to get married. May be the boy is so handsome or the girl is so beautiful so you want him/her for show off to their friends that they have the most whatever. Ending up marrying him/her for they want to have beautiful and cute babies. Or may be the man/lady is rich and you are lazy so you end up together due to the capital and evading poverty.
And the relationships or marriages that lasts ask me how/why its so. First is their interest match for example Benjamin has money and he wants a girl with the biggest behind and other small things. And Vera here has everything that Benjamin has and also she wants a rich man so Benjamin and Vera may last long due to that not because of love. Here neither of them may not find a reason to cheat or whatever, what-for? Second is one of the two is a fool or desperate to an extend that he/she after the relationship is over he/she may not be able get another one. So what she/he does is to stay calm and forgive the cheating spouse now and again because he/she cant move on or may be pretend nothing happens.
The third reason is good sex.Yap good sex. They try to look for other kinds of flavour outside of what they have only to find out its the best the best they can ever get to the moon and back so the decide to stay together and even get married.
Back to our main topic the two in the relationship may lack connection, in other words communication that brings them and a chemistry that bonds them.If you cant have a good interesting chat with your b/gfriend for hours then actually you're going no where these are the kind of relationships where the fire died since they one and the may continue being silent to each other na ivyo ndo waliachana.
When you have expectations you always draw a picture of what you want in your mind or what you think so when you get into the relationship at first it always looks like the picture you've drawn in your mind but as the time ticks and you'are there things begin to reveal themselves. And the picture you had is completely different. here most people find it hard to adjust to it. Or fail to communicate to their mate on what they want from them. Example is most of us slay with our parents money, So in you mind you think we have money and may be you want a rich guy when we end up dating you find out the truth and you can't adjust to that. Another example is she is beautiful but she is crazy since you don't like crazy ladies it ends there.
The population of girls, they are so many so many that they tripple the population of the boys. Now this is so tempting. (I'll talk about it next time)
You got what you wanted,so there is no need of staying around anymore. May be it was a job opportunity, spreading STI's to her/him, getting money/ favours, going out may be food anything of your own interest and you've finally gotten it. You keep moving on with your life.
Further more heart breaks are becoming a common thing to an extend we all walk into a relationship knowing or have phobia you may cheat. I can suggest we get used to it however it is if we may want our relationships to last forgive forget live your life.
Despite all these reasons there is still people who are deeply in love congrats to you. Somebody like Octopizzo,Kendrick Lamar these are kind of people i'm talking about when i say deeply in love.
Others, may be the love is going towards one direction you love her she doesn't love you back. Or you,vent met then one.
I just wish all relationships could last forever.
This is my point of view im not saying its true may be all happens due to love i dont know.
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And the relationships or marriages that lasts ask me how/why its so. First is their interest match for example Benjamin has money and he wants a girl with the biggest behind and other small things. And Vera here has everything that Benjamin has and also she wants a rich man so Benjamin and Vera may last long due to that not because of love. Here neither of them may not find a reason to cheat or whatever, what-for? Second is one of the two is a fool or desperate to an extend that he/she after the relationship is over he/she may not be able get another one. So what she/he does is to stay calm and forgive the cheating spouse now and again because he/she cant move on or may be pretend nothing happens.
The third reason is good sex.Yap good sex. They try to look for other kinds of flavour outside of what they have only to find out its the best the best they can ever get to the moon and back so the decide to stay together and even get married.
Back to our main topic the two in the relationship may lack connection, in other words communication that brings them and a chemistry that bonds them.If you cant have a good interesting chat with your b/gfriend for hours then actually you're going no where these are the kind of relationships where the fire died since they one and the may continue being silent to each other na ivyo ndo waliachana.
When you have expectations you always draw a picture of what you want in your mind or what you think so when you get into the relationship at first it always looks like the picture you've drawn in your mind but as the time ticks and you'are there things begin to reveal themselves. And the picture you had is completely different. here most people find it hard to adjust to it. Or fail to communicate to their mate on what they want from them. Example is most of us slay with our parents money, So in you mind you think we have money and may be you want a rich guy when we end up dating you find out the truth and you can't adjust to that. Another example is she is beautiful but she is crazy since you don't like crazy ladies it ends there.
The population of girls, they are so many so many that they tripple the population of the boys. Now this is so tempting. (I'll talk about it next time)
You got what you wanted,so there is no need of staying around anymore. May be it was a job opportunity, spreading STI's to her/him, getting money/ favours, going out may be food anything of your own interest and you've finally gotten it. You keep moving on with your life.
Further more heart breaks are becoming a common thing to an extend we all walk into a relationship knowing or have phobia you may cheat. I can suggest we get used to it however it is if we may want our relationships to last forgive forget live your life.
Despite all these reasons there is still people who are deeply in love congrats to you. Somebody like Octopizzo,Kendrick Lamar these are kind of people i'm talking about when i say deeply in love.
Others, may be the love is going towards one direction you love her she doesn't love you back. Or you,vent met then one.
I just wish all relationships could last forever.
This is my point of view im not saying its true may be all happens due to love i dont know.
Talk to the author
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