Why is UNDERSTANDING more important?
I've come across many successful and successfully unsuccessful relationships and this kind of got me thinking of the reasons why some people can't have each other for even a month while others go for over fifty years. The question I always ask myself is "why do you have to marry or propose to someone,then after a few days later you are no more?"
It's obvious that at the moment you are getting married, there must be Love between the two parties. I bet you can't propose or say yes to someone you don't really love. Well, you can, for some rare cases, but most often, you'll only marry someone you love.
Then why do you end up parting ways? After a while you'll start hearing words like," I loved you but I don't love you anymore," "we were not meant to be," "I'm giving up on you," "you are always negative on me"...and many more. If you have gone through such, you are not alone and don't start blaming yourself or your creator or your partner in this case.
UNDERSTANDING. According to English Dictionary, to understand is to know and comprehend the nature or meaning of something. In this scenario, I would define understanding as the ability or being able to know and perceive the nature of someone or something.
For any successful love story I have ever come across, you must hear the word understanding coming up many times, if not ones. Love is also a common virtue. The two, though can't easily do without each other, but I strongly believe that understanding is more important than just love. If there is love without understanding, occasionally it won't last long before you get to hear quarrels. Understand each other. Get to know the weaknesses of one another. Get to know the dark side of each partner. Many people tends not to like those parts of others that they do not understand.
Couples divorce not because they don't love each other but because there is no understanding between them. Let's take a life instance. If , say you met this beautiful woman and occasionally felt in love with her then you approached her, she gave you her number, you talked and it happens that she felt in love with you too. After a few days you propose to her and she said yes. *get me right, you have not had enough time to understand each other.* Then maybe you have a wedding and start living together. At this moment, there is alot of love in the air but as time goes by, you'll start to see the dark side of each other. Like maybe she is that type of woman who rush into making decisions without consulting you. Or you as the man, you might have that inbuilt habit of only listening to your mom and only doing what she wants you to do, she controls you in everything. I have the same problem and I'm still looking on how to get over it. But remember you are no longer that little boy, you need to make your own sound decisions too and your wife should be your new life partner. This is when you'll start quarreling each other. Believe me or not, your relationship won't cherish for a long time or as long as you expected it to.
But there is hope for you. Take time to understand each other. This might not take more than a month. Get to know each others' weaknesses and nature. It's really hard to change someone's nature, but once you understand and accept that that's how he or she was born, then you would have done all that you are capable of.
For the young generation, in many occasions you'll find a young man or woman dating more than three different people in only a month. The problem still is understanding and not necessarily Love as many thinks. If you start dating a girl that, for example, doesn't like chatting or emailing, then accept that it's the reality and her nature and moreover you won't be able to change it easily. Accept that and find a solution... You can think of meeting her everyday and having a one of one talk.
You are a lady and you are in love with this young man who is kind of shy or doesn't like too much publicity and such like but really loves you and you know it. Don't start thinking negatively but rather go to the drawing board and come up with a solution.
Sometimes even parents and their children fail to understand one another's nature. And this is why you'll see in some family, everybody is on his or her own way of life. It's the work of the parents to instill understanding in each and every member of the family and do everything as one.
Every corporations, partnerships, groups of any kind and in general, everything that involves more than one person can only thrive if there is understanding. Have you ever been in a group where people don't understand each other? How was it? How did things end up? How did you overcome your misunderstandings?
SHARE to help your family and friends too if the article helped you.
ByBenjamin43
I've come across many successful and successfully unsuccessful relationships and this kind of got me thinking of the reasons why some people can't have each other for even a month while others go for over fifty years. The question I always ask myself is "why do you have to marry or propose to someone,then after a few days later you are no more?"
It's obvious that at the moment you are getting married, there must be Love between the two parties. I bet you can't propose or say yes to someone you don't really love. Well, you can, for some rare cases, but most often, you'll only marry someone you love.
Then why do you end up parting ways? After a while you'll start hearing words like," I loved you but I don't love you anymore," "we were not meant to be," "I'm giving up on you," "you are always negative on me"...and many more. If you have gone through such, you are not alone and don't start blaming yourself or your creator or your partner in this case.
UNDERSTANDING. According to English Dictionary, to understand is to know and comprehend the nature or meaning of something. In this scenario, I would define understanding as the ability or being able to know and perceive the nature of someone or something.
For any successful love story I have ever come across, you must hear the word understanding coming up many times, if not ones. Love is also a common virtue. The two, though can't easily do without each other, but I strongly believe that understanding is more important than just love. If there is love without understanding, occasionally it won't last long before you get to hear quarrels. Understand each other. Get to know the weaknesses of one another. Get to know the dark side of each partner. Many people tends not to like those parts of others that they do not understand.
Couples divorce not because they don't love each other but because there is no understanding between them. Let's take a life instance. If , say you met this beautiful woman and occasionally felt in love with her then you approached her, she gave you her number, you talked and it happens that she felt in love with you too. After a few days you propose to her and she said yes. *get me right, you have not had enough time to understand each other.* Then maybe you have a wedding and start living together. At this moment, there is alot of love in the air but as time goes by, you'll start to see the dark side of each other. Like maybe she is that type of woman who rush into making decisions without consulting you. Or you as the man, you might have that inbuilt habit of only listening to your mom and only doing what she wants you to do, she controls you in everything. I have the same problem and I'm still looking on how to get over it. But remember you are no longer that little boy, you need to make your own sound decisions too and your wife should be your new life partner. This is when you'll start quarreling each other. Believe me or not, your relationship won't cherish for a long time or as long as you expected it to.
But there is hope for you. Take time to understand each other. This might not take more than a month. Get to know each others' weaknesses and nature. It's really hard to change someone's nature, but once you understand and accept that that's how he or she was born, then you would have done all that you are capable of.
For the young generation, in many occasions you'll find a young man or woman dating more than three different people in only a month. The problem still is understanding and not necessarily Love as many thinks. If you start dating a girl that, for example, doesn't like chatting or emailing, then accept that it's the reality and her nature and moreover you won't be able to change it easily. Accept that and find a solution... You can think of meeting her everyday and having a one of one talk.
You are a lady and you are in love with this young man who is kind of shy or doesn't like too much publicity and such like but really loves you and you know it. Don't start thinking negatively but rather go to the drawing board and come up with a solution.
Sometimes even parents and their children fail to understand one another's nature. And this is why you'll see in some family, everybody is on his or her own way of life. It's the work of the parents to instill understanding in each and every member of the family and do everything as one.
Every corporations, partnerships, groups of any kind and in general, everything that involves more than one person can only thrive if there is understanding. Have you ever been in a group where people don't understand each other? How was it? How did things end up? How did you overcome your misunderstandings?
SHARE to help your family and friends too if the article helped you.
ByBenjamin43
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